The Buddha (BC 623-BC 543) : Forgive and Love Each Other Researched by- Myoma Myint Kywe ၿမိဳ ႔မ ျမင့္ၾကြယ္

Forgive and Love Each Other Researched by- Myoma Myint Kywe ၿမိဳ ႔မ ျမင့္ၾကြယ္

Forgive and Love Each Other

Researched by- Myoma Myint Kywe
ၿမိဳ ႔မ ျမင့္ၾကြယ္

"Do not dwell in the past; do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment."

-Buddha-

Once we have the ability to forgive others, or forgive ourselves, we are on the way to once again exist in that reality of love.

One must have love and respect for one's own country, religion, literature, family, culture, nationality for all in the same way. They love and respect to their country, their religion, their literature, their family, their culture and their nationality. Love and forgiveness are most famous of Buddhism.

Forgiving someone can be difficult. Why do we need to forgive others? How can we forgive a person? The teaching of Buddha can provide us with answers, inspiration and direction.

Actually, forgiveness is not only about others, but also about our own spiritual growth. Love and forgiveness cannot be separated.

Mercy and forgiveness are direct manifestations of true love in any human being. All human beings are capable of mercy and forgiveness. More even, mercy and forgiveness, a full pardon toward all, is the easiest, fastest and most relieving act you can commit.

There are a lot of people out there that have had hard lives, bad beginnings/moments. Forgive those who have done you wrong. Most importantly, though, forgive yourself.

To forgive others and to be forgiven ourselves is quite a challenging experience! Yet, this is essential for the repairing of any loving relationship. Once we have the ability to forgive others, or forgive ourselves, we are on the way to once again exist in that reality of love - the meaning of life.

We need to offer forgiveness if we do harm. We need to take that most challenging step to begin the process of recovery, the process of reconciliation. When we offer forgiveness the person who has been hurt has the opportunity to begin the process of returning to love. We need to accept the offer as soon as possible and work towards repairing the relationship. We often need to forgive ourselves. This can be quite difficult. We need to learn to accept our own forgiveness and move on, just as we do when accepting forgiveness from others or when we offer others forgiveness.

To let bygones be bygones means to forgive another person and have them forgive you for whatever hurts you may have caused each other. Then, allow the unpleasant things that have happened in the past to be forgotten. (Let bygones be bygones: Forgive someone for something he (or) she did in the past and something that you say in order to tell someone to forget about unpleasant things/ bad-things that have happened in the past).

The Buddha teachings are all about understanding that the source of all love and wisdom is within our self. Almost people claim that Buddhism is the most peaceful religion in the world. Some Many scientists say that Buddhism is more scientific than modern science. So Buddhism is the most scientific religion in the world.

Like science, Buddhism is based on verifiable cause-and-effect relationships. The famous Kalama Sutta of Buddhism states that one cannot believe fully in "what one is taught, tradition, hearsay, scripture, logic, inference, appearance, agreement with established opinion, the seeming competence of a teacher, or even in one's own teacher". Buddha said that “you must not believe anything which you cannot test yourself.” Buddhism challenges everything, including logic, Science. Then Buddhism is neither pessimistic nor optimistic but a realistic religion.

According to the Buddha teachings, our thoughts determine who we are. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him”.

We would like to tell you that forgiveness is one of the Laws of the Universe. It is essential! It is one of the laws that govern this world. Forgiveness in a relationship of love is essential. We all make mistakes and we must make amends and fix the relationship with love (Metta).

Metta(love) is one of the Four Brahma Viharas. Brahma in this case has been translated as divine (or) noble. The word – as qualified in the path of purification – is meant in the sense of best and immaculate. This is because being best and immaculate is the best attitude towards beings and those who practise it have clean minds like those of the Brahma gods.

Vihara means abiding and living. And so those who practise these are said to be abiding or living in the divine or noble way.

The Four Brahma Viharas are

1. Metta: (loving kindness displayed to all you meet)
2. Karuna: (compassion or mercy, the special kindness shown to those who suffer)
3. Mudita: (sympathetic joy, being happy for others, without a trace of envy)

4. Upekkha: (equanimity or levelness, the ability to accept others as they are)

These four are attitudes towards other beings. They are also favourable relationships. They can also be extended towards an immeasurable scope of beings and so are called immeasurable. These four are important in all schools of Buddhism.

Metta Meditation and Karuna Meditation

Metta can be applied to both situations. Karuna Bhavana is the cultivation of compassion. In the cultivation it can be brought into concentration and absorption just like Metta. The benefits of the practice are similar to the 11 benefits described for Metta. Loving-kindness meditation can be brought in to support the practice of 'bare attention' to help keep the mind open and sweet. It provides the essential balance to support your insight meditation practice. Loving-kindness is a meditation practice, which brings about positive attitudinal changes as it systematically develops the quality of 'loving-acceptance'. The effect is unlimited.

In Karuna, however, compassion is aroused instead of loving kindness. It is actually a more specific type of Metta that is applied or arises when one is able to see the suffering of another. It is an emotion that arises when we see someone suffering, then feel sorry for him and have a strong wish to relieve him of his suffering. While Metta must not be mistaken for attachment, Karuna must be distinguished from sadness (or) grief. The direct enemy of Metta is anger, and that of Karuna is cruelty and so the ways of removing it are similar to that for removing anger.The general steps of the cultivation can be similar, i.e.

1. Contemplation of dangers of anger or cruelty
2. Contemplation of benefits of compassion
3. Growing compassion for a suffering being

The object of compassion is a suffering being and so we have to see the suffering of a being.

Sometimes I have tried to extend this one wish to more than one to overcome monotony.

Finally one can also proceed on to the specified and unspecified pervasion of Karuna in the 10 directions.

1. May all beings be free from suffering

2. May all living things be free from suffering

3. May all creatures be free from suffering

4. May all individuals be free from suffering

5. May all personalities be free from suffering

6. May all females be free from suffering

7. May all males be free from suffering

8. May all deities be free from suffering

9. May all humans be free from suffering

10. May all unhappy states be free from suffering

Particularly it allows pain to end. This means that it must be patient, not in any hurry to force pain to end or to try officiously to get rid of pain. It is the active side of wisdom and is the Buddha's supreme or GOLDEN PURIFIER.

10 Directions

1. In the Easterly direction
may all beings be free from suffering

2. In the Westerly direction
may all beings be free from suffering

3. In the Northerly direction
may all beings be free from suffering

4. In the Southerly direction
may all beings be free from suffering

5. In the South-Easterly direction
may all beings be free from suffering

6. In the North-Westerly direction
may all beings be free from suffering

7. In the North-Easterly direction
may all beings be free from suffering

8. In the South-Westerly direction
may all beings be free from suffering

9. In the Below direction
may all beings be free from suffering

10. In the Above direction
may all beings be free from suffering

Repeat 10 directions for all living things, all creatures, all individuals, all personalities, all female kinds, all male kinds, all nobles, all common folk, all deities, all humans and all unhappy states.

Mudita Meditation

Mudita means sympathetic joy (or) rejoicing at others' happiness and prosperity. It is the opposite of jealousy or envy, and therefore it is suitable for one wishing to overcome it. The suggestion is to practise at all levels. It is especially sympathetic or vicarious joy, the pleasure that comes from delighting in other people's well-being rather than begrudging it.

The traditional paradigmatic example of this mind-state is the attitude of a parent observing a growing child's accomplishments and successes, but it is not to be confounded with pride as the person feeling mudita must not have any interest or direct income from the accomplishments of the other. If we can be happy when other people are healthy and prosperous, it is called mudita; the opposite word is envy .

Mudita meditation is used to cultivate appreciative joy at the success and good fortune of others. It is used to counteract the resentment, jealousy, or envy often experienced at another's success.

The object and near cause of sympathetic joy is the prospering or happy being. So one who wishes to develop mudita should select such a person who is doing well spiritually and materially. Material gains may include good wealth, good health or good looks and so on. Usually it is not easy for this state of mind to arise, especially when one sees another doing better than oneself. It is often easier to feel indifferent or even jealous! For a lot of people it has to be cultivated. So for a start one is advised to do it to a very intimate person.

One is more likely to rejoice in his happiness owing to the closeness.

One makes use of the wish:

1. May he not cease from having whatever material gains acquired.
2. May he not cease from having whatever spiritual happiness attained.

We may also extend it in the more positive sense:

1. May he continue to have whatever material gains acquired and may he gain even more.
2. May he continue to have whatever spiritual happiness attained and may he gain even more.

1. May he continue to have whatever gains he has acquired.
2. May he continue to have whatever fame he has acquired.
3. May he continue to have whatever praise he has acquired.
4. May he continue to have whatever happiness he has acquired.

At home we can rejoice as long as anyone is happy. Even when we ask "How did you sleep last night?" and when we find that he slept well, we can rejoice at that. Rejoicing adds happiness upon happiness until it becomes really blissful.

All this rejoicing is normally not done but can be cultivated. Please remember to do that if you are practising mudita, snatch at the smallest opportunity. Rejoicing or sympathetic joy has much to do with gratefulness, humility, wholesomeness and loyalty. It gives us a good emotional attitude towards those who are doing well or better than us.

Upekkha Meditation

Equanimity has always been thought of as being cold and unfeeling and so many people turn away from it. In actuality it is a very nice state – peaceful, subtle, soft and so on. All the other pure and beautiful mental factors such as lightness, softness, quietness, flexibility, and rectitude become very obvious. So too with faith, detachment, acceptance and so on. If one can think of it as such, one will want to have such a state of mind more often. With such a balanced state one can definitely carry out one's work more efficiently.

When one has done so successfully with the neutral person, one can proceed to the dear one and the rest in the same way. After that it will also be done on specified, unspecified and directional pervasion.

As we can see, the Four Divine Abiding are different attitudes towards beings, and although each is different with its own unique characteristics, they are also very good attitudes and strike blameless, favourable or balanced relationships with others. They can bring much peace and happiness in the troubled world we live in, which are torn by ignorance, pride, jealousy, stinginess, suspicions, greed, anger and so on.

Once the Deva king Sakka asked the Buddha, "Why do beings who wish to be free from anger and ill-will, who do not want to quarrel and be ill-treated, who pray for happiness, peace and freedom, are yet not free from danger and suffering?"

The Buddha's answer was that all these conflicts, hatred, dangers and suffering are because of envy and miserliness.

One who is envious is one who wants to be happier than another but cannot. People like that also cannot stand others who are happier than themselves. Miserliness also does not want another to have a share in one's happiness and does not want another to be as happy as oneself. The result is a lot of fighting and quarrelling. These have their roots in anger and anger stems from greed and ignorance.

Equanimity is a perfect, unshakable balance of mind, rooted in insight. But in its perfection and unshakable nature equanimity is not dull, heartless and frigid. Its perfection is not due to an emotional "emptiness," but to a "fullness" of understanding, to its being complete in itself. Its unshakable nature is not the immovability of a dead, cold stone, but the manifestation of the highest strength.

"Avoid all evils; do all those are good; purify one's mind. These are the teachings of Buddha". Besides avoiding all evils and doing all that are good, we need to purify our thoughts. When our thoughts have been purified, then the mind is pure. The purpose of learning and practising Buddhism is to purify the human mind. If the mind of everyone in the family is pure, then our home is pure; if the minds of everyone in this society is pure, then our society is pure; if the minds of everyone in the country is pure, then our land is pure; if the entire human race in the world is pure.

Be good to yourself. You will train other people to do the same!

May there be happiness and peace for those who are living in the World

Hate is not conquered by hate:

Hate is conquered by love. This is eternal law.

- Buddha-

One, who knows himself of his foolishness, may be said to be the wise. One, who thinks of himself as the wise even though he is foolish, may be said to be the foolish…..

The foolish thinks his evil deeds as honey so long as there occurs no due results for his evil deeds. When bad results occurred due to his evil deeds, then he gets into trouble……

Patience, alertness, tenacity, reasoning, compassion, and farsightedness are the parental and leadership virtues…….

Never think of knowledge and wisdom as little.
Seek it and store it in the mind.
Note that ant-hills are built with small particles of dust, and
incessantly-falling rain drops when collected can fill a big pot.

-Loka Niti in Buddhism

But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them.

Luke 6:27-29

It is my wish that all people should appreciate:

1. A language and another language
2. A nationality and another nationality,
3. A culture and another culture,

4. A religious doctrine and another religious doctrine,

5. A family and another family,

6. A community and another community,

7. A political party and another political party,

8. A country and another country,

9. Between grand parent and grand children,

10. Between parents and children

11. Between teacher and pupil,

12. Between youth and adults,

13. Between government and people,

14. Between employers and employees,

15. Between husband and wife,

16. Between sellers and buyers,

17. Between elder and younger,

18. Between brothers and sisters,

19. Between seniors and juniors,

20. Between rich man and poor man,

21. Between eastern world and western world,

22. Between western culture and eastern culture,

23. White persons and black person,

24. Yellow persons and brown persons,

25. Tall persons and short persons,

26. Patient persons and short tempered persons,

27. High standard persons and low standard persons,

28. Healthy persons and sickly persons,

29. Loving persons and unloving persons,

30. Polite persons and rude persons,

31. Male and female,

32. Optimists and pessimists,

33. Beautiful persons and ugly persons,

34. Good moral behaviour and bad moral behaviour,

35. Good man and wicked man,

36. Educated persons and uneducated persons,

37. Right understanding and wrong understanding,

38. Right thinking and wrong thinking, etc as it is in the World on sundry ways and diversity.

There are various religions as Hinduism, Buddhism, Christianity and Islam as in the World. One must have love and respect for one's own country, religion, literature, family, culture, nationality for all in the same way. They love and respect to their country, their religion, their literature, their family, their culture and their nationality.

There are different kinds of countries, races, thoughts, religions, such as Chinese/China, Indian/India, Burmese/Burma, Thai/Thailand, English/England, Japanese/ Japan, American/U.S.A and Hindu, Buddhist, Christian, Muslim.

These factors were very important of the World and everyone. It must not be neglected. It must not be insulted. We should show respect to other. The way is not in the sky. The way is in the heart.

We need to demonstrate respect for each other and for relationships, not for power and control. We need to win other’s respect, not try to demand or force it. By force respect might bring compliance but it doesn’t build true respect for each other. All human beings are born free and equal in dignity and rights.

All human beings are equal in dignity and rights. We should appreciate others as much as we can. But the essential factor is not races, religions, positions, etc.

Mental attitude, honesty, diligence, character, unity, patience, justice, optimism, forgiveness, love, mercy, peace, open-minded, sacrifice, humility, moral ethics, etc are more important above all.

One must be able to one self analyze. Each and every one of us should follow and live according to the teachings of one's own religion. The one who does not respect another's culture and religion does not respect his own. The one who respects another's culture and religion respects his own.

All the teachings concerning culture, thoughts, opinion, beliefs and practices are valuable in their own ways. The important factor is that the follower of the concerned religion must follow the teachings sincerely. Although I, myself a Theravada Buddhist, I obey the teachings of Lord Buddha, but I appreciate the teachings of other religions and the appreciation of other nationalities and their culture are all noble and valuable in their own way.

There cannot be 100% similarities among religions, nationalities, any opinions, cultures, philosophies, skin hues, mental attitudes, sex, language, political, social origin, property, visions of people in the World. There would be more beneficence from performance of seeing with love and sympathetic mind (with optimistic view) for a particular thing rather than blaming or extreme criticize (with a pessimistic view) in contrast to others. Look on the bright side, please.

Now love to these should be kind, tender, and affectionate, reciprocal and mutual; such should love one another; there should be no love wanting on either side; and it ought to be universal, and reach to all the saints, though of different gifts, light, knowledge and experience, or whether high or low, rich or poor; and should show itself by bearing one another's burdens, bearing with, and forbearing each other, forgiving one another, and by edifying one another in their most holy faith, and praying with, and for one another.

Every cloud has a silver lining means that you should never feel hopeless because difficult times always lead to better days. Difficult times are like dark clouds that pass overhead and block the sun. When we look more closely at the edges of every cloud we can see the sun shining there like a silver lining. Every cloud has a silver lining means that the sun shining at the edges of every cloud reminds us that every difficult situation has a bright side. Look on the bright side, please.

Pessimistic people are more likely to be depressed, fail, be poor achievers, have poor health (especially as we age) and suffer electoral defeat! Optimists handle stress better, bounce back from setbacks more quickly, have better health, sell more, achieve more and are more creative - among many other things!

The English culture is best for the English, while the Burmese culture is good for the Burmese. The Indian culture is also best for the Indian people, while the Chinese culture is good for the Chinese people. Likewise, Christians must obey the teachings of the Bible, Buddhists must obey the teaching of Buddhism, Hindus must obey the teachings of the Hinduism and Muslims must obey the teachings of Quran.

Following points should be observed to do.......

1. Pure mind

2. Good behaviour

3. Politeness and gentleness

4. Loving kindness to others
5.Good perseverance and endevour

6. Skillful at work

7. Excellent performance
8. Study skillful in education

9. Self discipline

10. Self confidence

11. Self respect

12. Self control

13. Compassion

14. Forgiveness

15. Humanitarian vision

16. Tolerance

17. Humility

18. Honesty

19. Scientific hypothesis

20. Scientific simplicity

21. Optimistic view

22. Reasonable thinking

23. Humanism and justice

24. Mutual respect

25. Mutual understanding

26. Truthfulness

27. Mental attitude

28. Sympathy

29. Abide by the laws

30. Logical arrangement

31. Piety

32. Relaxation

33. Peace and security

34. Respect and appreciate of others.

35. Refrain from being extreme

36. Refrain from all evil

37. To do what is good

38. Respect and recognition for the human rights and human dignity others.

These above good qualities are necessary to be perfect.

May there be happiness and peace for those who are living in the World.

May there be love, respect, forgiveness, humility, for each and everyone.

May we be free from mental suffering.

May we be free from physical suffering.

May All Beings Be Well, Secure & Happy!

The Dhammapada in Buddhism says –

Conquer anger by love
Conquer hate by love
Conquer evil by good
Conquer the miser by generosity
Conquer gossip by patience
Conquer arrogance by humility
Conquer war by peace
Conquer enemy by forgiveness
Conquer the liar by truth.

The mind is almost always impure, and it almost always brings in bad thoughts. Even when it is not doing this, the mind is still a victim to doubt, jealousy, hypocrisy, fear and other unholy qualities. Meditation can be said to purify the mind by making it easier to develop generosity and compassion, and then to finally acquire wisdom. Meditation can be said to be the highest form of Buddhist practice as the Buddha himself attained Enlightenment through meditation.

Hence, it is evident that all the religions of the world bestow upon us the way to success, prosperity and happiness. In my opinion, if all of us sincerely obey the teachings accordingly, the World would be a happy place to live.

Buddha says: “Hurt not others in ways that you yourself would find hurtful.”

You shall love your neighbor as yourself!

Treat others with love and respect !

To understand everything is to forgive everything!

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Forgive and Love Each Other Researched by- Myoma Myint Kywe ၿမိဳ ႔မ ျမင့္ၾကြယ္