We
must do pay back with METTA to their debt
Myoma Myint Kywe
“No matter how much you try,
you can never completely repay the kindness of two people: your mother and
father.”
-The Buddha (BC 623-BC 543)
Obedience
is the first step in living a true Buddhist life. You may not agree with your
parents' some decisions, but you must try to obey your parents’ decisions
begins with showing them respect. Children learn how to become ethical decision
makers when parents focus on ethics, not just rules.
Children
not only need to love their parents, but also maintain the teaching of parent and ethics that build strong
character. We must be prepared to respond to their noble gratitude.
We need to show our parents we love them so much.
1.
Our Parents taught us about MORALITY
2.
Our Parents taught us about HONESTY.
3.
Our Parents taught us about do the BEST.
4.
Our Parents taught us about LOGICAL ARRANGEMENT.
5.
Our Parents taught us about SELF CONTROL.
6.
Our Parents taught us about RELIGION.
7.
Our Parents taught us about DILIGENCE.
8.
Our Parents taught us about WISDOM.
9.
Our Parents taught us about JUSTICE.
10.
Our Parents taught us about TRUTH.
11.
Our Parents taught us about POLITENESS.
If
children don’t respect to parent and insult to their parent, they will suffer
miserably due to the debt that must be repaid.
Because we owe an overwhelming debt of gratitude to our parents,
we must repay the debt of gratitude firstly by appreciating our parents. We
should know how good they are to us. Additionally, we must repay that debt of
gratitude to them. In Buddhism, this concept is described in these words: katanyu
and katavedi, which represent the pride and dignity of a child.
We should NOT forget the debts of gratitude we owe to our parents.
Gratitude
towards parents is an important virtue in Buddhism as the relationship with
one’s parents as a profound impact on one’s spiritual growth.
With regard to the debt owed to one’s father and mother, the two fluids, red
and white, of the father and mother come together to become your body. You
dwell within your mother’s womb for 240-270 days, a period of nine months during
which your mother on thirty-seven occasions undergoes suffering that is close
to death. And the pains she endures at the time of birth are almost too great
to imagine, the panting breath, the sweaty steam rising from her forehead till
it reaches the Brahma
heaven. After birth, she provides you with 180 and more measures of
milk; for a period of three years you romp/play about the knees of your father and
mother. So, when you come of age and take faith in Buddhism, you must first of
all think of paying the debt you owe to your father and mother.
There are two people that we can never completely gratify in
our life in this world. We can never completely please them. Do you know who
they are? They are our mothers and fathers. Everyone wants to repay completely
gratify their parents. How can we gratify them? There are three ways to do this.
The first way is to put our
mother on our right and our father on our left, by washing their clothes and
bodies, feeding them every day and making their beds every night. Even if we are
spend our whole life helping and caring for them we’ll never completely repay
them because they are our benefactors and worthy of our respect.
The second way is to act like a
king. As a king want to fully repay his parents and show them his gratitude, he
give them all his money, gold, land and power which he belong to because they
are his benefactors and worthy of his respect. Even if we do like this as a
king, we’ll never completely repay them because they are our benefactors and
worthy of our respect.
The third way is through Faith,
Morality, Liberality, Concentration and Wisdom. We must encourage our parents
to have all of these. If they don't have them then it is our duty to help them
and encourage them in all these things.
We send them our merits, bless them and pray for them, Even
if they are passed way. If we can do this third way, we can show our gratitude
to our parents as a part of gratitude towards them but not complete yet.
(The third way is that Saddhā=Faith, Sila=Morality,
Cāga=Liberality, Sammādhi=Concentration, Pann̄ā=Wisdom: if our parents have
no faith in believing truth, we should encourage them to have faith. If our
parents have no morality in regarding their behavior, we should encourage them
to believe in morality. If our parents have no generous act or liberality, we
should encourage them to believe in giving or generous act or liberality. If
our parents have no concentration, We should encourage them to have
concentration. If our parents have no wisdom, we should encourage them to be
wise or to have wisdom. If we can do this third way, we can show our gratitude
to our parents as a part of gratitude towards them but not complete yet.)
The debt of gratitude we have towards our mothers and fathers is not easy to repay. As an analogy, even if you were to carry your mother on one shoulder and your father on the other for 100 years, caring for them by various ways such as helping to massage and bathe them, and even clearing their waste, this would not repay their kindness.
Our
parents are the ones who brought us in the World. We should love and appreciate
them as much as we can because one day they will be gone. We must love our
parents. You should say with loving voice intonation forever.
One
of the greatest titles in the world is parent and one of the biggest blessings
in the world is to have parents to call Mother and Father.
In Loving Memory of My Beloved May May and Phay Phay
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Our
parents are the ones who brought us in the World. We should love and appreciate
them as much as we can because one day they will be gone. We must love our
parents. You should say with loving voice intonation forever.
I
think back to my parent. I had to say in my mind about gratitude of my parent
repeatedly. Excuse me, allow me to share with my personal heart yearn,
feeling and thoughts.
In Loving Memory of My Beloved May May and Phay Phay
(May May in Burmese language is Mommy in
English language.
Phay Phay in Burmese language is Daddy
in English language).
(In
loving memory of my father who passed away on 22th September, 1983. His name is
Myoma U Than Kywe. He was the one of the leaders of the Panglong
Conference along with National Leader General
Aung San that initiated the formation of the new nation of Union of
Burma in February 12, 1947.
In
loving memory of my mother who passed away on the 22th September, 2012. Her
name is Daw Ahmar (a) Daw Myint Myint Win ). She has
practiced insight meditation of Mogok Vipassana since1983
until she died. She also explained and taught many children in her
surroundings.
….“You are so good to me infinitely good since I was born
14 April 1960….You gave me life; you gave me your heart and your
shoulder when I needed to cry…..You gave me hope, when all my hope is gone and
you gave me wings so my dreams can fly... You gave me your words, you gave me
your voice, you gave me your everything, each breath time of your life…You are
the best thing that ever happened in my entire life without you; I wouldn't
bless to come in this world. You were there whenever I need help and support,
you taught my faith to survive and be a good person! Believe me, if I haven't
stop talking about how precious you are to me until I die…that won't be good
enough to make you see how I do appreciate it...But all I can say which I hope
you would believe every word I say because I mean it in every sense of word
that my love for you will live in my heart until NIRVANA / Nibbana (eternity)
is through and I thank you for everything you've done to me so much”. (In the Buddhist
tradition, nirvana is described as the extinguishing of the fires
that cause suffering. These fires are typically identified as the fires
of attachment (raga), greed (lobha), aversion/anger (dosa) and
ignorance (moha or avijja). When the fires are extinguished, suffering
(dukkha) comes to an end. The cessation of suffering is described as
complete peace.
Bhikkhu
Bodhi states: The state of perfect peace that comes when craving is
eliminated is Nibbana (nirvana), the unconditioned state experienced while
alive with the extinguishing of the flames of greed, aversion, and delusion).
I
shall never forget my beloved parent and their GRATITUDE. I love them forever. My
sibling and I love our beloved parents forever. Phay Phay and May May, take our METTA
and merits, we will send METTA and merits to you. As a
Buddhist, in my Shrine Room in front of Buddha Statute, we pray for you to be
free from all kinds of " dukkha - samsara " and share
all our Merits to you... (Ah-hmya...Ah-hmya...Ah-hmya)...We pray you may
rest in peace until attain Nirvana. We believe that their Nirvana
gate was opened.
Ah-hmya is a Buddhist term that literally means "share the merits
from the good deeds".
If
you really want to honor and help your departed ones, then do some meritorious
deeds in their name and transfer the merits to them. According to
Buddhism, good deeds or 'acts of merit' bring happiness to the doer both in
this world and in the hereafter. Acts of merit are also believed to lead
towards the final goal of everlasting happiness. The acts of merit can be
performed through body, speech or mind. Every good deed produces 'merit' which
accumulates to the 'credit' of the doer. Buddhism also teaches that the
acquired merit can be transferred to others' it can be shared vicariously with
others. In other words, the merit is 'reversible' and so can be shared with
other persons. The persons who receive the merit can be either living or
departed ones.
Saṃsara is a Buddhist term
that literally means "continuous
movement" and is commonly translated as "cyclic
existence", "cycle of existence", etc. Within Buddhism, samsara
is defined as the continual repetitive cycle of birth and death that arises
from ordinary beings' grasping and fixating on a self and experiences.
Specifically, samsara refers to the process of cycling through one rebirth
after another within the six realms of existence, where each realm can be
understood as either a physical realm or a psychological state characterized by
a particular type of suffering.
Dukkha
is a Buddhist term commonly translated as "suffering",
"anxiety", "stress", or "unsatisfactoriness".The principle
of dukkha is one of the most important concepts in the Buddhist tradition. The Buddha
is reputed to have said: "I have taught one thing and one thing only, dukkha
and the cessation of dukkha." The classic formulation of these
teachings on dukkha is the doctrine of the Four Noble Truths, in which
the Truth of Dukkha (Pali: dukkha sacca;) is identified as the first of
the four truths.
We
are also taught that the debt of gratitude children owe our parents for what
our parents have done for us cannot be repaid to them whatever our children
might do in return our parents.
We
all had a very different childhood experience. For some it was
incredible. Our parents were consistent, loving, and honest. You MUST tell your
parents “Thank you SO much” before they die.
Even
if one should carry about one's mother on one shoulder and one's father on the
other, and so doing should live a hundred years.... Moreover, if one should set
them up as supreme rulers, having absolute rule over the wide earth abounding
in the seven treasures - not even by this could one repay one's parents….. This
is the real truth.
Every
parent do a lot gratitude for their children: they bring them up, provide them
with love, food, security and introduce them to the world……
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